True story:  A few years back I was working with a client who 
had recently moved to Los Angeles.  She was single, did not 
know many people in the big city, and felt a little lonely.  
I innocently suggested she give online dating a shot.  It seemed 
like an easy and pressure-free way to meet people, and I had 
other clients who enjoyed their experience and were in good 
relationships as a result.  

"What kind of desperate person do you think I am?!?" she snapped.  

She apologized, but explained that she felt "weird" about online 
dating.  This perked my curiosity, so later I asked some of my 
other clients if they ever tried it.   Some only confessed after 
their faces turned three shades of crimson.  Since I am a strong 
proponent of online dating, I dispel any stigma or embarrassment 
when I recommend it to my clients.  This is what I tell them:

For many singles, life moves like Richard Petty around the 
Talladega Speedway.  We change jobs every few years.  We 
relocate more frequently.  We cannot remember the last time we 
answered a phone with a cord.  Even if time is not the issue, 
some single people cannot shake the feeling that everyone else 
is happy while they are always alone.  We may look at online 
dating as an act of desperation, because "normal people don't 
need something like that."

The simple fact is that you are not weird if you use an online 
dating service.  We only feel weird when we think we are doing 
something outside the norm.  Consider this: over 40 million 
people in the US access online dating websites every month.  It 
is the fastest growing sector of online content.  There is no 
reason to feel embarrassed, because if you date online you are 
actually part of a huge group.  

There is nothing wrong with wanting to find someone special, or 
at the very least make some new friends, so why not use every 
resource available to you?  You do not get extra points for 
meeting someone in a bar or while waiting for dry socks at the 
Laundromat.    Does it matter to you how you met the important 
people already in your life?  You probably barely even think 
about it.

By setting up a personal profile and a list of likes and 
dislikes, you invest time in yourself.  More importantly, you 
are taking action by trying to improve yourself and your 
situation.  You are putting yourself out there and taking 
control by refusing to be lonely and isolated.  

I have found many advantages to the Internet.  The anonymity of 
online dating allows you to roll out of bed, hair standing in 
ten different directions, breath smelling like Boston Harbor at 
low tide - then click!  You stumble on a person you will be 
dating in a few weeks.  The cost compared to going out and 
searching is next to nothing. You can learn more about a person's 
interests to see if they mesh with yours.  You do not have to 
deal with the harshness of rejection in person.  You have a huge 
pool of people to explore (remember, 40 million!) from all 
walks-of-life, people you would never have the chance to meet 
within your neighborhood or small circle of friends.

There is also fraud and deception.  You will probably come 
across a photo that looks eerily like Pamela Anderson - right 
down to the copyright in the lower corner.  Clients tell me 
about married people posing as single.  Nevertheless, these 
issues of honesty exist both on and off-line, so do not let 
that stop you from finding the partner you want.

With 43% of the U.S. population being single and with so many 
single clients asking me about Internet dating, I began to put a 
guide together to help my clients use this service effectively 
and safely and avoid these pitfalls.  I want everyone to find 
the happiness they deserve and want to make this Tool book 
available to everyone for Free!  To get your free E-Book, "Tools 
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Don't be ashamed or afraid, learn the best and safest way to use 
the Internet to take control of your life and find the person 
you deserve!