The Gift Of Love Comes Custom Wrapped In Many Different PackagesCopyright © 2007-2009 Siobhan GambleHow beautiful is it to see two people happily in love? When true love is present, it's essence it is especially hard to overlook; even to those on the outside looking in. Have you ever been out somewhere in the public with the one you love and catch a glimpse of a stranger smiling in your direction? How about having complete strangers approach you, marveling at how happy and beautiful look together and encouraging you to continue loving each other that way? It can be a most fulfilling experience to love and be loved just as much in return; a blessing that everyone hopes to receive at some point in their lifetime. Unfortunately, it doesn't always happen that way, which is why the saying goes "It is better to have loved and lost than to never love at all". We should all learn to take full advantage of love when it comes our way. With that said, love can sometimes show up in ways we don't expect. Love holds no prejudice of any kind, but a sad thing is that some of us do. Not only does this narrow minded mentality cheat some of us out of fully reaping the rewards of love, but it sometimes puts a strain on the lives of those who choose to embrace love the way it was given to them. As stressful as it already is finding and maintaining happiness, interracial couples are especially prone to a higher degree of stress. A few main factors play a part, such as, As far as the black community is concerned, there is indeed a double standard floating around. It is often viewed as acceptable for a man of color to engage in relationships with white women. On the other hand, Black women who show an interest in white men are showed very little appreciation by other black men and women. This shallow state of mind is ludicrous. Regardless of these problems, there will definitely be natural issues that arise between those who enter into interracial relationships. It is sad to say, statistics show that the length of the average marriage nowadays less than seven years. I believe it has a lot to do with bad choices in partners. It is very important to marry someone who suits you well; otherwise the road to happiness will be anything but happy. Although there are things that are ultimately out of our control, there are some things that we can do to ensure our own happiness. One of the best things that we can do for ourselves is pay close attention when choosing a life partner. Strong relationships, especially interracial relationships need compatibility and commitment from both partners. It is much more than sharing the same interests, or having the same likes and dislikes; it's about believing the same things and wanting the same things out of life. Choosing the wrong life partner will not only affect you, but your future children as well. We all want to share our lives with someone whom we can connect to on the deepest level and enjoy a true partnership; someone who will treasure, love and adore us as well as protect and support us. But many chose to sacrifice because they do not have the patience to wait for such a person to come along. It takes a well disciplined person to ask themselves which is more important; be lonely for awhile until the right person comes along, or settle with being happy for the moment, dealing with whatever consequences surface from it? Here are 10 steps that can help you to either maintain the happiness in your relationship, or help you find the love you have been waiting for: 1. Love yourself first. If you don't love yourself properly, how can you expect anyone else to love you the way you want them to? You are the one who has to set the example for them. By being good to yourself, you are secretly demanding others to be good to you as well. 2. Remember, there is nothing more sexy than confidence. It is the lock and key to being successful in true love. When you are confident, you are fulfilled and that alone is attractive. 3. Never allow your happiness to depend on others. You MUST be able to find happiness in yourself before you can be completely happy in a relationship. The way that you feel on the inside is a reflection of what is seen on the outside. 4. Make sure your spirituality is in good health. Ask yourself if you are emotionally and spiritually prepared to love and accept another human being. If you aren't, it is imperial that you take some time to nurture your spiritual side. This is very important. 5. Always stay true to your values and never compromise them for anyone. By doing this, you will protect yourself from unnecessary pain 6. Never, ever, ever chose a mate out of loneliness, financial insecurity, or any other need. This also goes for choosing to be with a person out of fear of the future. When don't feel positive about yourself or your life, you are almost certain to make the wrong choice. 7. Have you ever heard the saying, "good things come to those who wait?" Well the same thing applies to love. "True love comes to those who wait". Many people forget that destiny is predetermined. You have to be patient and not settle for second best if you don't want to miss out on you potentially perfect match. Patience, patience, patience! Sometimes it may take years before the right person shows up, and sometimes that is due to lessons that you may need to learn before you are ready. Focus on becoming the person you want to attract and see how much faster you will connect with the right person. 8. If you are not happy, respected or fulfilled in your present relationship, what is the point of staying? Yes, breaking up is hard to do but free each other so that you can find more compatible people. 9. Avoiding sex before commitment is the best way to test a relationship's potential. Once sex is introduced into a relationship, it becomes harder to be objective. 10. Last but not least, you have to be healthy in order to receive healthy love. If you are not at peace with yourself, your relationship isn't going to go smoothly. Being healthy in mind, body and spirit radiates confidence and will also help guide you in making healthy choices when it comes to choosing and attracting a life partner. As the old saying goes, "Ignorance is Bliss". Well that is not particularly true in the case of jumping into relationships with people who you do not know very well. Taking it slow and being open to the gift of love, regardless of what color package or size it is in will ensure a life of happiness, even against the odds. About The Author:
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